Written by Heidi Stevens, the following was published in the Chicago Tribune:
Book Offers Next Chapter in 'Having it All'
Ann-Marie' Slaughter's essay,“Why Women Still Can't Have It All” is among the five most-read articles in the history of “The Atlantic”. It has been viewed an estimated 2.7 million times since its 2012 publication and is widely credited with injecting energy (positive and negative) into the long-running conversation about work/life balance. Slaughter continued that conversation in her new book: “Unfinished Business ~ Women, men, work, Family which she devotes considerable time to redefining the 'all' we're struggling so mightily to have.
I grew up believing my father's work was more important than my mother's work...and that to become a liberated woman, was to be like my dad and become a lawyer. Slaughter went a few steps beyond lawyer, serving as the first female director of policy under Secretary of State Hillary Clinton. She commuted to Washington, D.C. every week from her home in New Jersey, where her husband, Andy, served as 'lead parent' to their sons (aged10 and12) when she started the job in 2009.
Two years later, she headed back to Princeton to resume her post as law professor. “I had always believed, and told all the young women I taught and mentored, that women could 'have it all', meaning simply that they could have careers and families in the same way and at the same levels as men do,” Slaughter wrote. “Men who are presidents, CEO's, directors, managers, leaders of all kinds have families too...but here I was, committed to my career as I had ever been.
“I no longer think my dad's work was more important than my mom's. I see the way my mother invested in all of us ~ her three children and her extended family ~ and I think that is an equal achievement. We grow by investing in others as much as we do investing in ourselves. Traditionally, the world of men's work was investing in themselves and competition.
Women should have ample time to nurture children, aging parents, ailing spouses...without watching their careers suffer. It's up to us to create the conditions in which the two can reinforce each other. This means referring to men with careers and kids as working fathers...the same way we call women as
working mothers. It means pushing corporations and the Federal Government to support flexible hours and generous family leave and quality child care”.
It is society as a whole that assigns value and prestige to what people do.
That is the world we must now create.
Diana Nyad Explains Why 66 is Better than 28
“I was 64 when I became the first to swim the 110.86 miles from Cuba to Florida, something I failed when I was28. The truth is, I am a better athlete in my mid-60's than I was, even as a world champion in my mid-20's. The cliche is that we reach our 'prime in middle age because we are mature; we have found patience and perspective. We recognize that our time is more and more valuable with each fleeting year. We tap into a well of experience and open-mindedness.
“There is no doubt that I am breathing the life force of my prime physical self now, at age 66:
I am more resilient. My immune system is a stronger fortress.
I can summon a brute strength I never had back in the day.
I was a thoroughbred then, more finely tuned, but also somewhat fragile.
These days I'm more of a Clydesdale, sturdy and stalwart.
If you told me I'd be left stranded in the wilderness for many months and could choose at which age I would attempt to survive the ordeal, I'd pick this very age, 66. I accept the lines on my face, cartilage thinning in the knees, the breasts riding lower and lower. Who calculates that we're too old to work in our profession? Who decrees the assigned ages for productivity and vitality? I accept the laws of the universe when it comes to aging ~ but I point-blank refuse to cower in the face of the weak and faulty statistics, geared for the masses, that pay little respect to the will and potential of the individual.
This is the crux of it all:
We rabidly pursue youth in the name of appearing young.
Too many of us aren't exercising our bodies and carefully contemplating every food morsel we eat.
Age is not only a 'state of mind' ~ it is a state of body, as well.
We think our value lies in what age we are perceived to be rather than in the measurements of how we are performing and what we're experiencing. I insist to be left to my own reckoning!”
A Woman's Contentment ~ Her Perfect Breakfast
She's sitting at the table with her steaming gourmet coffee. Her son is on the cover of the Wheaties box.
Her daughter is on the cover of Business Week. Her boyfriend is on the back of the milk carton.
Audrey Hepburn's Beauty Tips
For attractive LIPS...speak words of kindness.
For lovely EYES...seek out the good in people.
For a slim FIGURE...share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful HAIR...let a child run his/her fingers through it once a day.
For POISE...walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two HANDS:
one is for helping yourself and the other for helping others
Remember that people, even more than things, have to be
restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed.
Boost someone's self-esteem today.
Compiled by Merle Baird-Kerr...October 31, 2015
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