Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Out of the 'Little World' into the School of Hard Knocks!

A tadpole (also called a pollywog)  is the larva stage in the cycle of amphibians, particularly that of a frog or toad.  Although with gills, they do not have arms or legs until the transition to adulthood...and have a large flattened tail with which they swim.  Tadpoles have a tough life.  Fast swimming, they escape many creatures that haunt their pond for food (fish and water beetles). Lungs begin to develop, preparing it as a frog (or toad) that can live on land or in the water and can swim around to find food.

Isn't it strange?  That a small child born from the mother's womb is akin to the life of the tadpole...who is nurtured by the parent(s) to become strong and healthy in a small environment. The child is likened to a tadpole, until thrust into a bigger pond.  Here he learns to exist and cohabit with others. Many lessons  to be experienced as he approaches nursery school, then grade school.  Sometimes, he feels crushed in this big pond and discovers that surviving happily, is not always a cinch.

Relating to this experience...many years ago I'd learned to play Bridge and did exceedingly well among our monthly social evening with enthusiastic 8 ladies.  When taking professional lessons, I quickly discovered how little I knew!  Once the knowing tadpole in a quiet pond, I was now into a flowing river...and it was 'sink or swim'.  So much to much to learn!

Don't go around saying...the world owes you a living.
The world owes you nothing.  It was here first!
(Mark Twain)

Your Child Didn't Make the Team: Now What?

It happens to every child or teen at some point in life. A boy or girl doesn't make a school sports team or isn't selected for a club or group. For many kids who just returned to school, something like this might have happened recently.  It did to my 11-year old child.  He came home upset because he wasn't picked for something he wanted to be part of at school. I will say it was hard for me to see him upset and confused.  I wanted to comfort him.  I wanted to go to the school and ask, “Why didn't you pick my son?”  I wanted to do something to make his pain go away.

But that isn't how life works, and Mommy butting into his life isn't going to  help make him a man. He would never hear the end of the teasing.  Rejection is part of life...and when it first happens to your child, you, as a parent, can make it a teaching moment.  If you do, the next time it happens, the blow might not feel so bad.  So that's what I did.

I suggested he gather more information about why he wasn't picked. 
Ask what he could have done better. 
Ask if there would be a chance for him to be selected at another time. 
I told him not to assume someone didn't like him (which he thought) and get more details.

To my surprise, the following morning I received an e-mail from one of his teachers saying he had already talked with her about it...and he had told her he was going to try really hard so that he might be picked in the future.  And it turns out there will be another chance, this year, his teacher said.

His always-encouraging teacher was proud of him.  In  front of a group of students in his class she pointed out how good it was that he had set a goal for himself.

I praised him when he got home for taking such a big step.  He felt a lot better asking questions and getting some feedback.  Not only was he a good sport, but he also learned what he could to to improve his chances.  We will see what  happens.
Written by Kris Hey...and published in the Orlando Sentinel.

A Parenting Class Advisor said,
Prepare your children for the road ~
not the road for your child.

Advice from Dr. Seuss

“Kid, you'll move mountains. 
No need to get intimidated by the size of the task ~
it's just a matter of taking small steps toward your bigger goal.”

“You have brains in your head;
You have feet in  your shoes;
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You'll miss the best things...if you keep your eyes shut.”

A “Yes We Canoe Attitude”

Bennetto Elementary teacher, Scott Millar challenged the school's students to raise at least $250.00 and said he would carry a canoe during the Terry Fox Run if they did.  He issued the challenge to support his stepsister and her husband, who have recently recovered from separate battles with cancer.
The kids managed to raise $600.00 so he carried the canoe for 1.1 kilometres.

A full colour photo in the Spec's September 25th  issue
shows Scott (with his green canoe hoisted over head)
standing amid a mass of joyful and very eager students.

He presented a challenge to each student to work and play together
to achieve a worthwhile endeavour.

How wonderful it is ~ that no one need wait a single moment
before starting to improve the world.
(Anne Frank)

I alone cannot change the world,
but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.
(Mother Teresa)

Compiled by Merle Baird-Kerr...October 9, 2014
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